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Catching the Train-Life lessons on chasing the dream

What has catching the train got to do with chasing my dreams. For starters I catch the train each morning Monday to Friday, so you could argue its just mundane.  However, now the difference is my mornings are so packed full of activities as I work to become am entrepreneur, that catching the train is like racing to a finish line. Anyhow today’s journey to catch the train provided an opportunity for a life lesson.
This morning it was raining and I got to the train parking lot with only 3 minutes to spare to catch the train. This meant real sprinting and a good possibility that I won’t make it.  I was aching from my appointment with my Personal Trainer the  night before. I was also wearing thin and slightly high heels,  carrying a large and heavy backpack and my lunch bag, talk about challenges!!!. Anyhow,  I bolted out the car, started to sprint and found my legs giving way, so I started to strategise. I thought to myself, “I will sprint a little, do some accelerated walking and repeat”.  As I congratulated myself for starting to sprint, two sprightly young and energetic people sprinted straight past me heading to the train station. I started to feel deflated and even more doubtful of catching the train.
Yes I had planned ahead for a productive day, but things didn’t work out as planned and the need to a have productive day resulted in me carrying extra baggage  along.  As I applied my strategy, I inched closer  to the train station, however time was running out. The voice in my head kept saying “give up and catch the next late train”,  another said “keep moving only stop when u get to the platform and see that the train has left you behind”. It didn’t help that the station announcer was announcing the arrival of my train, I got more anxious and discouraged.
Anyhow, I listened to the latter voice and kept moving, finally I reached the platform.  Thankfully, I saw the nose of the train arriving, now! to take a deep breathe and give up  any hope of getting a sit on  a usually very packed train.   Other passengers were already poised on the platform waiting strategically to get in the door first and grab a sit.  Again my brain and inner voice challenged me to strategise, use what I know and plant myself in a place I could have a good chance of getting a sit. I took the bait, looked quickly using what I learnt on my previous morning journeys and planted myself. The train arrived and I was first at the door.  My strategy paid off and I got to a sit. Where i proceeded to write down the story and lesson learnt.
So after the long story what did I learn?
  1. Just because others are faster and stronger than you does not make your strength and abilities insignificant.
  2. Do whatever you can, whenever you can and however you can to get to your designated dream. Like my mentor #Paul Martinelli would say “hold your image”.
  3. When chasing your dreams, just because people are ahead of you and poised to take chances doesn’t exclude you from the mix. You cannot afford to give up, for all you know, you may have the winning strategy and they may not.
  4. Guard your self-talk the very first barrier to you taking action is you. You are in your head. Feed your spirit to develop discernment to know what would encourage or discourage you.
  5. Be proactive with feeding your spirit and brutal with any negatives that try to come in.
  6. No matter how hard you plan, it doesn’t always mean you will have an easy ride, the key is to keep moving forward regardless.
  7. You are stronger, braver, smarter, more beautiful than you think. This is only affirmed when you do what you need to do regardless of how you feel or what you think of your strengths and chances.

I am reminded that “the race is not always to the swift neither to the strong, time and chance (i.e due diligence, unrelenting pursuit and perseverance) happen to them all.

I saw my pursuit through to the end goal. It will not always be success each time, also remember, life plays out various circumstances and series of events. My end goal may not always be achieved each time, however, win or lose, the key is to keep evaluating our daily so called mundane experiences to build life lessons that will serve us in time when we need strategic thinking to develop effective actions.

 

Have a great day.
fear

THE PSYCHOLOGY OF FEAR

This is not a scientific piece but the musings on a day of discovery, in the life of a Coach.

Fear meets courage where choice is affirmed.

Yesterday I started getting stressed about what wasn’t moving swiftly as i would want both at work and in my coaching biz. I was exhausted working two jobs, my day 7 to 7 job and my coaching business. I was experiencing intensity in both.

I began to say in my head “what if you can’t do this, what if juggling this leads to complete failure in both, what if you don’t have what it takes”, Panic kicked in.

I knew this inner musings, I have heard them before, it’s the fear barrier leading to the next level of growth. Its the fight or flight situation. But more than that it is the child in me that needs the adult in me to arise, respond and quiet it. To give it permission to choose.

Then I had a pep talk with myself.

I said,

“Whose dream is this you are chasing? Whose pace do you have to maintain? Whose standards do you have to attain? What are you trying to accomplish, is this stress going to aid it or hinder it”? After the questions I knew what my inner voice and body was telling me, she needed permission to pause and rest for a moment. Take the pedal of the intensity and speed gas and just be in the moment, be at peace and re-engerise. To not worry about delay and denial.

So I affirmed to myself the ability and power to choose, I gave myself the permission to be still.
Then I quieted my inner voice, settled my body in a chair, put away the phone and just centered in the moment, attended to my breath and stilled.

I slipped off deeply and peacefully into a power nap. I haven’t been able to do this for a while. Within an hour of the nap, I awoke refreshed, centered and settled and fear and panic had gone.

By just giving myself permission to pause! stop it all!, I gained momentum. Decisions I needed to make became clearer, and strength to continue was supplied from the inside out.

Sometimes what makes us afraid, is the idea that we have no choice or the inability to empower and permit ourselves to choose whether to fight on or pause for a moment. To tell ourselves to attend to our mortality. To pause, rest for as long as is needed. Then continue.

Courage is not just for the fight, it is also for the rest and pause. Fear is not always about flight it is about finding courage to make difficult decisions to stand still. Using our ability to choose, exercising responsibility not only for our dreams but for our well-being and values too.

Next time you fear and panic respond to it.
Ask what it is negotiating for it could be progress or a detour or a pause and rest.

Patience Ogunbona